Who Are Your People?

My people share with me on the deepest levels. They share their fears and sorrows, their funny stories and foibles, their biggest failures and their biggest joys. My people know me and are known to me. They see me through all my bullshit and love me anyway. Even when I try to hold them out, …

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Pairing Short-Term Payoff with Long-Term Investment

Sometimes change is just not fast enough for me. I have an impatient soul that goes along with the rigorous demands I make of myself. Like many I want to see immediate results to affirm the direction that I’m moving in. A part of me hungers for the get rich quick scheme rather than reaping …

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Toughing it Out, Switching Gears, and Taking a Break

I had a terrible night dancing just recently. A night where I felt completely disconnected from dancing – something that I truly am passionate about. I felt awkward, bored, frustrated, and completely in my head; disconnected from my whole. This is not a new feeling. I have experienced this before with swordplay. It’s something that …

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Victims of the Service Economy

In Reinventing Collapse, Dmitry Orlav talks about how those of us who live in the Western world have sacrificed meaningful relationships to the service economy. By living in a world where every thing that we need can be purchased, where politeness is part of the transaction, and money is the main currency, our requirement to …

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Meet Don’t Just Follow (in Dance and Life)

I dance a few different dance forms where you dance with both men and women. I had a month last year where I remarked to a friend of mine that all of my best dances had been with men. Many of these came when I was in the lead role and they the follow. The …

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A Shift in My Personal Philosophy

Sometimes I struggle with jealousy. Not jealousy of a lover but jealousy over the successes of others. Sometimes I feel so small that when I look at someone else getting an awesome accolade for their achievements I say “Why not me? Why was I not noticed? Why have I not done enough to get noticed?”. …

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Super Resilient Man!

At a party not long ago I was asked “If you were a super-hero based on the greatest strength you have now, what super hero would you be?” The power that I feel has been my greatest asset is resiliency. I’m really good at getting up after I get knocked down. In fact I so …

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It’s an Act Before It’s the Real You

One of the biggest barriers to changing one’s behaviour is the feeling that the new behaviour “isn’t you”. Well the truth is that *it’s not*. At least not yet. If you want to get different results you’re going to need to try different strategies and like learning any new skill these new behaviours are going …

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The Pain of Change

How much pain does it take before you’re ready to change? When a particular course of action isn’t working, it’s always amazing to me how long we as humans can tolerate it. The pain of change is often felt to be significantly higher than the pain of the current course. And at least the current …

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The 5-minutes Per Day Practice Regime

Everyone knows if you want to get better at something you have to practice. However making time in a busy schedule can be super-challenging. It’s easy to have the intention to practice but then not actually get around to it. The next thing you know you’re back at your swordplay/dance/yoga class and you haven’t done …

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