Your Intuition Isn’t Always Right

I struck the 7 ball on the spot I had marked, completely incredulous that it would go anywhere near the pocket I had called. I watched my cue ball slide toward it, the sharp crack and the 7 shot in a straight line, directly to the corner pocket and in. A part of me felt …

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Three Types of Practice

I was talking with a student of mine the other night, encouraging them to start pushing themselves toward their next rank at my school. They commented to me that they felt like they were getting worse in their skills, not better. They felt that they were flailing, imprecise, and out of control. I personally had …

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Arte, Ardore, Onore a Documentary about Academie Duello

“Arte, Ardore, Onore” is the motto of my martial arts school Academie Duello, which simply means: skill, passion, honour. These are the three guiding principles of our school. To practice the art as authentically as possible; to pursue and feed our passions for a happier, more fulfilling life; and to honour our teachers, training partners, …

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Prioritizing Purpose Over Relationships – An Unpopular Choice

I have chosen a life that puts myself and my purpose very central. This choice has often taken me away from larger relationships. It has meant that I play a smaller role in my daughters’ lives. It has meant that lovers have often found themselves not getting enough of me to stay within a partnership. …

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Revealing

It’s easy to hold yourself closed. It’s easy to be closed and not truly realize how closed you are. The world is full of daggers and my soft centre needs to stay hidden. The world is full of liars and my soft centre need not be led astray. I will bind myself down over this …

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Practicing the Power of Presence

One’s presence can be measured by one’s impact over time. The greater your presence the greater your potency. I like this view of presence not just as the practice of being in the moment as an internal process but as the act of being truly “there” in the world. Having an impact through the bigness …

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Power and Partnership – Landlord/Tenant

This is part of an exploration of Power, Partnership, and Symmetry. Landlords offer property in exchange for fees to pay for it. This is still a partnership; both sides need what the other provides and both truly require mutual respect to be successful, though a landlord may have 10 houses and the tenant only the need …

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Frustration is a Natural Part of Learning

Have you ever experienced a supreme frustration with learning? The feeling that you’re just not getting something; that a concept or technique is just beyond your reach and challengingly so or perhaps just not coming fast enough? This state of frustration is a core and natural part of the learning process. I don’t know that …

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The McDonald’s French Fry Effect

McDonald’s french fries are a wonderful combination of salty and sweet. Crisp and just a little bit soft as you chomp them down. This is what you might imagine as you pass by a McD or see someone snacking on a pack three at a time. In the past I have often succumbed to such …

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Resonate. Stillness in Life and Dance

I’m so used to filling space. I fill space with plans and work, conversation and music. A quiet space is quickly filled with people and activity. There can be an awkwardness to space. Drawing my partner in, the music feeding our footsteps, my choreography comes to a conclusion and there she is at the end …

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