An Interview is not an Audition

I’ve been helping some friends get ready for job interviews recently. One of the most important things to do in your mind going into an interview — especially if this is a true ‘career opportunity’ you’re pursuing — is to frame the interview to yourself as a two sided event; a two-way interview. Like a …

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Do It Like You Mean It – 2 Stages of Practice

Anna’s arms extended out into the cut, the point of her sword wavering her body ever so slightly withdrawn, the extension of her arms slightly slack. The motion was essentially correct but every part of it was made with doubt as if she were exacting over every detail and wondering if she was doing it …

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The Good Kind of Stupid Decision

“I made a stupid decision today — everything worked out ok — but it nearly got me really hurt.” This is the best kind of stupid decision. You get the benefit of all of the learning without any of the consequence. A saying I have often enjoyed is: To avoid bad judgment you need wisdom. …

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Being At Ease With Your Choices

In Chinese medicine one aspect of health is related to your comfort or lack of comfort with your process for making decisions. I learned this from a student who is a Chinese medicine practitioner and found the concept rather interesting. I loved the idea that your lack of health wouldn’t be with a specific method …

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The Lesson You Choose

The other day one of my students had a rather scary moment after class, we’ll call him Bill. While performing a demonstration Bill nearly injured another student by going faster and harder than he was planning to. The other called out and left the room nursing a sore arm. Bill turned white. He stammered an …

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Transformation Comes Through Rhythm

If you want to make a big transformation in your life. The most important thing you can do is to create a rhythm around that change. Success in transformation does not come through revolutionary action, it comes through creating a system of small steps forward. Set a time to meet with yourself or better a …

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Dealing with Boredom

One of the primary challenges that I see my students face and that I have personally faced over years of practice is boredom. Most techniques take hours of focused time to improve and hone. Yet the mental discipline it takes to put in these hours does not come naturally, certainly not to our rapid fire …

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Connecting Across Generations

I have a friend that I frequently have lunch with. She’s a live wire, thoughtful, artistic, and always challenges me. She is wise and creative and 30 years older than me. When we go out I am not infrequently asked during or after if she is my mother. We don’t look anything alike. She’s a …

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