Last summer, on a quiet crisp night I went on a starlit walk with a beautiful woman. We sat on the seawall (a waterside walk in Vancouver) and stared at the moon on the waves, our arms around each other. We told funny stories, held hands, shared things we had not shared with each other before, she felt good against Read More …
I’ve been learning to follow in dance recently and it has been a revealing experience. There is something special about being able to rest my head on my partner’s, let my body rest against theirs, and follow the rhythm of the music and the dance we are carving within it. Leading can take a lot of energy; constantly creating choreography Read More …
It’s easy to jump right to solutions when we intuitively experience a problem. The challenge is that it’s easier and more effective long term to accurately describe the problem first before proceeding. Here’s why: 1. Solutions do not always lead to resolution. If you want a solution that truly fits the problem you’re dealing with you need to know what Read More …
Sometimes when we hear an idea to truly understand we have to try it on. We want to see if that idea fits, if it’s comfortable with our world view. How it matches the other ideas we wear. It feels really good to try on an idea that matches your style. You feel validated. You can look at the offerer Read More …
To do great work on a team every member of that team must be committed to being truly present. When you are physically together, the more that that physical togetherness can equate to emotional and spiritual togetherness the more meaningful the experience, the more profound the creation. When I refer to emotional and spiritual togetherness, I don’t mean something squishy Read More …
I study martial arts in order to get better at life. I get better at life to be a better martial artist. How I carry myself when I fence is an expression of how I physically carry myself as a human being. This comes both through the physical strength I practice to carry myself with poise and confidence and the Read More …
My friends Sean and Kiara were standing at the alter in a beautiful church in New Westminster. I was standing just to the side of Sean, his best man, joyfully watching my friend take a beautiful woman as his wife. The priest was talking to all those assembled of love and the symbology of the ring he had just taken Read More …
Sometimes when I feel really afraid of something. Deep in the pit of me afraid. I take that fear and I go off into a room with it. I close the door and then I close my eyes. I dive down into that space where the knot is. Often it feels like it’s in my stomach but sometimes it’s in Read More …
Receiving criticism can be useful for one’s development. Someone else can often see flaws in your execution from a better perspective and offer insights into how to overcome your most important challenges. However many live their life in a constant state of self-criticism. They see everything they do for its flaws; adding your points on top of them, as insightful Read More …
Last night was a lousy night of dancing. No it wasn’t. It was emotionally rich. Last night the predominant feeling that I had was sadness, somehow related to feeling disconnected. The dance that was offered was not the dance that I wanted to dance. I wanted to dance an angry dance or a sad dance, a soulful dance. I didn’t Read More …