Failing and Falling Down – A Lesson in Resiliency from Toddlers

Today while teaching a class on falling (an important martial arts skill) I had a funny exchange with one of my students; we talked about how much toddlers fall down in the process of learning to walk and be stable. Each time they fall, they get right back up again. Generally there’s no crying or …

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Don’t Be Realistic

“Be realistic”, “Don’t set yourself up for disappointment”, “Grow up and get a real job”. There will always be doubters when you set yourself on the road less travelled. If you succeed in stepping out of the ‘realistic’ route then you’ll cast a light on the limitations of others. This light can be painful. So …

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You Have to Actively Choose New Ways of Thinking

Ideas you have had for a long time live inside you.  On a physical or spiritual level.  You feel them; you don’t think them. They govern your reactions to the world on an impulsive level.  When you decide you want to change a way you have operated for a long time, that change has to …

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Personal Responsibility, Punishment, and Compassion

Embracing a full sense of personal responsibility is a powerful and challenging journey. Personal responsibility says both “I have a power in creating my world” and “I am responsible for what is created both good and bad”. Taking on this sense of power can be tremendously liberating and can help you realize an ability to …

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Choosing Instead of Leaping into Trust

Sometimes extending trust feels like it requires a leap of ‘faith’ I think more rightly it should be done with a leap of intellect. To extend yourself positively (in good faith as it were) you need to live in a position of choice. You have to ‘act’ with trust. Part of extending trust to another …

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Arte, Ardore, Onore a Documentary about Academie Duello

“Arte, Ardore, Onore” is the motto of my martial arts school Academie Duello, which simply means: skill, passion, honour. These are the three guiding principles of our school. To practice the art as authentically as possible; to pursue and feed our passions for a happier, more fulfilling life; and to honour our teachers, training partners, …

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It’s Worth Investing in Communication

If you’re shut down by a team member or you encounter some behaviour that impedes you in being heard, being your best, or sharing the best expression of you, it behooves you to address that block within the team “When you act in this way it shuts me down”. It is worth the investment and …

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