Mating in Captivity – A Cleverly Titled Book by Esther Perel

I’m reading an excellent book right now, Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel. The book does a beautiful job of exploring the dichotomies in our relationship between love and sexuality. One of the main topics of exploration in the book is the often inherent conflict that comes between creating security and calm in a romantic partnership while trying to maintain Read More …

Be Principle Centric

You can’t truly control others, circumstances, or even your own feelings but you can choose where you place your focus. I recommend placing your focus and your practice (how you challenge and measure yourself) on principles or virtues that can lead you in a powerful direction. I am personally focusing on integrity – the alignment of thought, word, and deed. Read More …

Making others feel good instead of helping others be good

“In your relationships, are you concerned about making others feel good about themselves or are you concerned with making them feel good about you?” This question was posed by David Hoyt, in a recent blog post on John Maxwell’s blog. As a leader I certainly started as the latter and have over time developed myself into the former. In my Read More …

Value the Best Idea Instead of Your Ego

It’s easy when considering ideas to consider personalities, likes and dislikes, ego, and hierarchy. The healthiest teams and the most successful people put these things aside and value their ideas based on their merit. Becoming merit focused takes a great practice of integrity. I say ‘practice’ because integrity takes practice. Don’t think of it as a binary quality. Each time Read More …