Effort and Results Orientations

Effort orientation allows you to focus on the process instead of the result. Learning and growth happen when you challenge yourself to step outside of your comfort zone and not be critical of the outcome. By focusing on effort instead of results you free yourself from perfectionism and bias yourself toward movement. Results orientation is where successful lazy people thrive. Read More …

Taking Agency in Learning

The drone of uniformly delivered content to rows of kids locked into desks is the initiation into formal learning that many of us come from. A system designed to output little industrial cogs who are themselves uniform. This is a system that is unfortunately devoid of passion and builds a habit for learning that places the student in the position Read More …

Conflict Avoidance is Resolution Avoidance

Meeting resistance, obstruction, defensiveness, or down right obstinance can be intimidating. Strong views and strong emotions can easily trigger an emotional reaction in you and those reactions can be uncomfortable. Often it seems easier to simply avoid these types of conflict and do your best to cope with the problem you’re dealing with than move into an emotionally charged space. Read More …

Different Types of Enjoyment

There are many ways to enjoy the things you do. Not all enjoyment involves a smile on your face or laughter in your heart. Though some of the best kinds certainly do. Some of my other favourite kinds of joy: Tongue Sticking Out Joy. I don’t mean mischief, but that kind of enjoyment where you’re concentrating so hard your tongue Read More …

Allowing Someone to Change

Is a politician who changes their view “thoughtful” or a “flip-flopper”? If your partner changes their philosophy, are they “growing” or “not the person I fell in love with”? If a friend changes sides in an argument have they been convinced, or are they a traitor? Change is scary. Humans like the people around them to be constant, consistent. We Read More …

Writing As Art

Do I agree with everything I write? No. Some things I agreed with as I wrote them. For some my thoughts and feelings on the topic changed weeks later and some as soon as they were done. Many I still agree with now and some I never agreed with. Writing is art. It has the power to not only express Read More …