Effort and Results Orientations

Effort orientation allows you to focus on the process instead of the result. Learning and growth happen when you challenge yourself to step outside of your comfort zone and not be critical of the outcome. By focusing on effort instead of results you free yourself from perfectionism and bias yourself toward movement. Results orientation is …

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It’s the Right People Who Show Up; Practicing Positive Acceptance

I just finished teaching a swordplay workshop in Fort St. John, a small city in northern British Columbia. The organizer of the workshop had anticipated more than 20 people coming out to the workshop but on the day we only ended up with 6. I think our friend here was quite disappointed and understandably so. …

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The Reward for Integrity is Conflict

If you want to avoid conflict, avoid integrity. The act of acting with truth will inherently lead you toward conflict. By standing for an idea you make that idea less malleable, less willing to bend or hide. The more proudly that idea stands the harder it is to squish it past others that do not …

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Robots Can Teach Us the Value of Flailing

A friend of mine recently admitted to me that the last year of her life had largely been flailing about trying to find her way. This comment reminded me of a robot I had read about years ago. The robot, shaped like a starfish was designed to be able to locomote across alien terrain through …

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Taking Agency in Learning

The drone of uniformly delivered content to rows of kids locked into desks is the initiation into formal learning that many of us come from. A system designed to output little industrial cogs who are themselves uniform. This is a system that is unfortunately devoid of passion and builds a habit for learning that places …

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Failing Makes You Better… If you let it

I failed my driver test 5 times. You might be thinking “Wow. He must be a terrible driver.” the truth is I’m a very good driver. When I did pass I had a faultless exam, which my examiner told me was extremely rare. Failure can shut you down or it can move you forward. If …

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Conflict Avoidance is Resolution Avoidance

Meeting resistance, obstruction, defensiveness, or down right obstinance can be intimidating. Strong views and strong emotions can easily trigger an emotional reaction in you and those reactions can be uncomfortable. Often it seems easier to simply avoid these types of conflict and do your best to cope with the problem you’re dealing with than move …

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Different Types of Enjoyment

There are many ways to enjoy the things you do. Not all enjoyment involves a smile on your face or laughter in your heart. Though some of the best kinds certainly do. Some of my other favourite kinds of joy: Tongue Sticking Out Joy. I don’t mean mischief, but that kind of enjoyment where you’re …

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Allowing Someone to Change

Is a politician who changes their view “thoughtful” or a “flip-flopper”? If your partner changes their philosophy, are they “growing” or “not the person I fell in love with”? If a friend changes sides in an argument have they been convinced, or are they a traitor? Change is scary. Humans like the people around them …

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Writing As Art

Do I agree with everything I write? No. Some things I agreed with as I wrote them. For some my thoughts and feelings on the topic changed weeks later and some as soon as they were done. Many I still agree with now and some I never agreed with. Writing is art. It has the …

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