Fools Rush In

Fools learn a lot more than the rest of us. They are liberated from the restrictions of right and wrong. They’re free from should’s and the judgments of others. Fools get to laugh uproariously in the theatre and don’t mind what anyone beside them thinks. Fools shed fountains of tears without embarrassment. You can stand …

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Don’t Forget the Passion in Compassion

Compassion does not mean being less of yourself. Compassion does not mean not expressing yourself. Compassion does not mean making room for others at expense of the self. Compassion is not self-sacrifice. Compassion is not inherently soft, or gentle, or yielding. Compassion can be blunt It can be bold Compassion can be fractious as much …

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Follow from the outside in, dance from the inside out

I haven’t written about dancing in a while yet I’ve been quite inspired by it lately. A lot of my personal practice of late has been focused on following in partner dance. I find the act of following in dance to be quite beautiful from both a participatory and metaphorical sense. It is interesting to …

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Haters

If you don’t want haters, don’t do anything. The more you seek to do and the more powerfully you succeed in doing it, the more you will challenge others and not everyone likes a challenge. If you want everyone to like you, make sure not to express your views too loudly. Don’t rock the boat. …

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Building Strength Instead of Armour

In my quest to act with truly deep integrity one of the challenges and realizations I struggle with is the recognition that integrity does not always feel good. It’s downright uncomfortable and even terrifying to reveal myself, even to those I trust. What’s easier and more comfortable is to armour up. Building armour feels strong …

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Failing and Falling Down – A Lesson in Resiliency from Toddlers

Today while teaching a class on falling (an important martial arts skill) I had a funny exchange with one of my students; we talked about how much toddlers fall down in the process of learning to walk and be stable. Each time they fall, they get right back up again. Generally there’s no crying or …

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You Have to Actively Choose New Ways of Thinking

Ideas you have had for a long time live inside you.  On a physical or spiritual level.  You feel them; you don’t think them. They govern your reactions to the world on an impulsive level.  When you decide you want to change a way you have operated for a long time, that change has to …

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Be Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable

I have been on a kick lately of really getting on board with this idea. In the past I had cultivated a very solid set of strategies for calming my psyche in times of stress. I would feel stress, sit and process that stress, untangle it and work to resolve it before moving forward. Don’t …

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Playing with Discomfort

This week I have put it before myself to do something big each day. To dare. To risk. To move beyond my comfort zone. That topic has me thinking about my relationship with insecurity. In Mating in Captivity, author Esther Perel, talks to the conflict that comes between our desire to create comfort and security …

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Use a Self-Improvement Mantra as Your Password

I’m a fan of changing my thinking or philosophy through mantras. My current system involves choosing an area of focus and putting a positive statement about that area on my todo list. Everyday when I hit that item I stop and consider that mantra and try to carry it with me through the rest of …

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